Back in February, our #07Craze girls participated in a competitive futsal tournament. The team played well over the weekend, winning all of their games convincingly. Since the start of the tournament, the girls couldn’t stop talking about wanting to win one of the elegant trophies on display.
After their championship win, the girls giddily approached the trophy table. They waited their turn as an older boys team snapped pictures with their new trophy. When it came to be the girls’ turn, they were surprised to hear the words, “Congratulations girls, here are your….participation medals!” Tears flowed immediately. Suddenly their sense of accomplishment became sheer discouragement.
Coach Derek’s heart sunk as he shared his players’ disappointment. He called his little soldiers in to gather around him, tears and all. As the team they beat in the finals received their participation awards, he took a moment to go #BeyondTheField: “Girls, I’m so sorry that you didn’t get the trophy that you wanted. In my mind, you’ve earned it. But you don’t need a trophy to define you.”
John Wooden, one of the most successful coaches of all time, explains, “Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.”
Trophies don’t define us. Our effort of becoming our best does. Here at River City FC, part of our mission is to develop Capability in our players: growing them to become who they are fully capable of.
So….if we are not defined by our accomplishments, what defines you?